What is coaching?
Updated: Nov 21, 2019
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For my first blog post, I thought I would start out with the basics, since some people are not very clear on what coaching actually is. First of all, coaching is not psychotherapy. Coaching really focuses on the present and the future, while psychotherapy tends to look backwards, towards the origins of things. Both methods are valuable in their own ways, and you can certainly do both at the same time.
You know that friend you can talk to about anything, and sometimes just talking something through with her is enough to give you new insights? Coaching is a similar process, in which the coach is trained to ask targeted questions that will help you create awareness around your current situation, and come up with ways to address the things that are bothering you. Clients’ topics include:
· I feel stuck in my job. How do I get a new career, even though I am a trailing spouse?
· Why do I always wind up having the same, unhelpful conversation with my mother-in-law?
· I’m tired of the aid business, but it’s the only thing I’ve ever done. What can I do next?
· How can I express my religious/spiritual values more in my life?
· How can I encourage my kids to learn more about the positive values in our host culture?
· How can I rebuild my life after addiction?
After a coaching session you will feel more motivated and energized to tackle the areas in your life where you feel blocked. Here’s an easy example:
The situation: Tracy was feeling really bad about how her house looked. She tried to keep things looking tidy and clean, but somehow dishes and papers always piled up. She found herself even getting a bit depressed, feeling that her lack of energy around tidying reflected a general lack of energy in her life.
The awareness: During the coaching session, Tracy realized that she always left her tidying and cleaning to the end of the day, because in the morning she felt she had more important things to do. But the morning is when she had the energy to do the cleaning.
The plan: Tracy decided that she could afford 15 minutes first thing every morning to tidy and clean, and that she would still have enough time to spend on her more important activities. She reasoned that if she did 15 minutes every day, her house wouldn’t get so out of hand and she wouldn’t feel so depressed.
The result: A month later, Tracy is still doing her cleaning and tidying every morning. “The short bursts make it really doable,” she says. “My house is cleaner, and I feel good every day because I’ve done something productive even before I have my coffee.”
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